Thursday, April 1, 2010

‘Glaen: A Novel Message on Romance, Love and Relating’ by Fred. R. Lybrand – Book Review and Giveaway

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How many books have been written about love and marriage over time?  Probably too many to count.  I have just read a book with an interesting ‘take’ on the subject – ‘Glaen: A Novel Message on Romance, Love and Relating’ by Fred. R. Lybrand.

Here is the very inventive book trailer for ‘Glaen’:

Here is the description on the back of the book:

The solutions Dr. Lybrand offers in this book will astound and free you to quit doing the very things that take away your ability to find the love and friendship you want.  More importantly, you’ll discover a fresh path to the possibility of greater connections with those you care most about.  You’ll want everyone you know to read this book…twice!

In this interesting novel, the main character is Annie Hughes, a graduate student whose parents are divorcing.  She is the only student in the last class of her college career, an English course entitled ‘Original Non-Fiction.’  Her unconventional professor, Glaen Breuch, who wants to be known only as Glaen, gives Annie one assignment for the semester:

“Well, you need to write an original work of non-fiction, offering original insights on a useful topic.  It doesn’t matter what the topic is, but I would suggest you write about something you’d like to understand…” (pp. 18-19)

Annie decided to write about the secret to lasting relationships; she wanted to learn how to avoid the devastation of her parents’ marriage.  She came up with two theories (p. 26):

·    Theory 1: Traditional Dating
·    Theory 2: Courting

She proceeded to interview people who were involved in both types of relationships, including her best friend Jennah, who was the proverbial serial dater. 
When her two theories did not stand up to scrutiny, Glaen suggested she follow the example of Sir Isaac Newton

“Hebrews 11:1 in your Bible says,
Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
Annie, Isaac Newton was a man of observation, or science.  However, he was also a man of faith, faith in God.  He believed God was the great designer or architect of the Universe; so if he could see, really see, with his observations how God designed things to be, then he could understand how God made things to work.  It was because he believed in God that he simply took an honest look at the way things truly worked.” (p. 48)

Based on her new viewpoint, Annie made the following developed the following principles:  Lo
  1.     Love is a mystery of choices
  2.     Chemistry in relationships is God’s business
  3.     The Basis for relationships is our business
  4.     Lust is an appetite which owns its possessor

An important truth that Annie uncovered is Control-Free-Relating:

Control-Free-Relating is where at least two people, without any requirements for the conversation at all, simply speak the truth with love (Golden Rule) to one another. (p. 134)

Two other points that I found to be very practical are:

Romance is a trap because true relationships are not about the exciting and unusual; instead, true relationships are about connecting together in the common day-to-day world. (p. 159)
          Drop the Past & Tell the Truth.
          Truth is the lifeblood of real relationships (p. 165)

I think Dr. Lybrand did a terrific job in making ‘just another relationship book’ into something quite different from what I had read before; I enjoyed the unique spin of writing it as a novel.  Annie was able to share her insights with those near and dear to her, and relationships were renewed and restored.  And I also liked the kindness and concern that was shown by Glaen – who was not quite what he seemed!  I will be reading this book again – and will be implementing some of these truths in my own life. I am sure my husband, Fred, will be grateful that I don’t always expect the exciting and unusual!

Dr. Lybrand is an honors graduate from Dallas Theological Seminary, and has a Doctor of Ministry degree from Phoenix Seminary.  He recently retired as senior pastor of Northeast Bible Church to pursue writing and speaking full-time.  He resides near San Antonio TX with his wife, Jody, and their five children.  He is the author of five other books, including ‘Heavenly Citizenship: The Spiritual Alternative to Power Politics’ and ‘Back to Faith: Reclaiming Gospel Clarity in an Age of Incongruence.

You can order this book here.

This book was published by the Barnabas Agency and provided to me by the B&B Media Group for review and giveaway purposes.

I have a copy of this book that I would love to pass along to one of you! 

There are several ways to gain entry:

1) Leave a comment here on the blog, giving me your best advice on relationships!  Please make sure to leave your email address in this format – sample[at]gmail[dot]com.

2) Follow me on Twitter; I will more than likely follow you back!  If you are already a Twitter follower, that counts, too!  Please leave a new comment to that effect.

3) Follow me as a Google Friend on this blog; if you are already a Friend, that counts, too!  Please leave a new comment to that effect.

4) Become my Facebook friend.  Please leave a new comment to that effect.

5) Follow this blog as a NetWorked Blog Follower after you’ve become my Facebook friend.  Please leave a new comment to that effect.

So there are five chances to enter!  Please limit one entry per option.

This give away is for U.S. residents only.  The deadline for entry is Thursday, April 15, 2010 at 11:59 p.m. EST.  A winner will be chosen via the Random Number Generator on Friday, April 16, 2010 and will be contacted via email.  The best to all of you!


heidi330 said...

I hope this is where I'm to leave a comment for thebook giveaway...
I think the best advice I received from my Grandmother and Paster was Never go to bed fighting always talk it out. You may need to walk away but don't let it go for to long.


Andrea Schultz said...

Hi Heidi -

You're in the right place!

That's great advice!

Blessings & Happy Easter -


Anonymous said...

my best advice is to 'be yourself.'

thanks for the chance to read this book

kmkuka at yahoo dot com

Atypical Girl said...

I would love to read this book. Thanks for the giveaway.


glenda09 said...

Please enter me! My best advice is there is a season for everything including being in a relationship also to keep it pure until marriage..your thoughts, actions etc and to pray on it :)

glenda09 said...

Im following you oon Twitter Im wellnessmommie

glenda09 said...

I'm following you on google friend connect also

Judylynn said...

My advice for any relationship is straight from the Bible and one I am still trying to learn after 27 1/2 years of marriage: consider the other as more important than your self.


Judylynn said...

I am a Twitter folloer!

Judylynn said...

I am a Google Friend!

Judylynn said...

I am a Facebook Friend!

Judylynn said...

I am a NetWorked Blog Follower!

Megan said...

Relationships take work, and the more you give, the more you get!

We posted about this at Winning Readings.

inspiredbyfiction at gmail dot com

Barbara E Brink said...

This does sound like a very interesting book on relationships. We have a couple girls in our church getting married this summer. Would it make a good gift book for this purpose?
Oh, and please enter me for the giveaway!

Andrea Schultz said...

Barbara -
This would be a great book for young people. I wish I would have understand its wisdom when I was a youngster!
You're definitely entered!
Blessings -

And thanks to everyone else for your entries and comments!

Linda Kish said...

Talk things out and listen to what each says.

lkish77123 at gmail dot com

Anonymous said...

Be honest about yourself from the very beginning. Don't pretend you love sports, when you would rather have a root canal than watch a football game. That way your partner can get to know the real you, not the one you think they want.

Abi said...

google friend follower

ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

AmandaSue said...

My best advice is to always communicate. Never bottle things up, because it only makes things worse, if something is bothering you, then you need to go to the other person and that person should be able to lovely be able to listen to your feelings.


Benita said...

My best advice is to listen to each other actively. Learn how to hear one another and respond in kind.


Anonymous said...

Listen more, talk less. Repeat what you hear so that you know that you've understood clearly what was said. Sometimes what we hear is different than what was said.

ebeandebe at gmail dot com

Andrea Schultz said...

Hi Friends -

Thanks to everyone for the terrific advice! I pray for the relationships in all of your lives to be encouraging and loving!

Blessings -


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